Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Bad News

Hey Everyone,

I had an ultrasound appointment last Saturday to determine with better certainty how old our baby was. From what they saw, the baby was at about 9 and a half weeks, but they couldn't see a heartbeat (the baby's heartbeat should start at around 8 weeks). A couple of doctors took a look at the ultrasound pictures and confirmed that our baby has stopped growing. From what they told us, a relatively high proportion of pregnancies end this way (somewhere in the neighborhood of 25-30%) and that it's likely due to some sort of chromosomal abnormality that would have made the baby's life very hard if we had been able to carry it to term. They also said that one miscarriage does not indicate that your chances of having a viable pregnancy in the future are any better or worse.

This has been a difficult week for us. I have been crying off and on for the past several days, and the news seems to have made Trevor sick (literally -- he had a fever of 101 last night.) So things are pretty crappy at the Trevor and Grace household right now :( We've both taken the week off from work.

After much discussing with the doctor, family and friends and researching, I've decided to do a surgical Dilation & Curette. I attempted to wait and let my body do things naturally but it's just too difficult. I'm hoping that I'll be able to get in this week, possibly even by Thursday. Please pray for us.

Sorry if this puts a downer on your day, but I wanted to inform everyone. We are planning on trying again once we feel that we are ready, although we'll be a bit more hesitant in sharing our excitement next time.

Thank you for sharing in our excitement to this point, and I hope we can share in that same excitement again in the future with a happier ending.


  1. I am so sorry - no matter how lame those words seem. The same thing happened to my best friend last month and it has been a very difficult month, to say the least.

  2. Grace, I am so sorry to hear this. Many prayers and positive thoughts coming your way. I can't imagine what you both are going though. Please know we love you and hope that you guys are able to try again as soon as your ready :)

  3. We'll be praying for you. Hang in there, there will be better times ahead.

  4. My thoughts and prayers are with you... Hang in there.. love you..

    Aunt Melissa